Just sit down with her and tell her you re worried about her health and she needs exercise. Maybe if she sees you re really concerned, she ll realize there s an issue that needs to be dealt with.
In a point blank answer, you can t. This is something she needs to want to do for HERSELF, not you or anyone else. That s the only way she ll be successful. Yes, it may seem selfish of her not wanting to lose the weight due to her health, but at the same time, it s her body, and her choice to do with it as she wants. The more you mention it to her, the more she ll become resistant (most people are stubborn that way). She probably doesn t want to hear it from you, as I m sure she gets it from others and her doctor (if she goes to one). I m also sure she s aware of her weight and how she looks. She could very well be depressed because of it. All in all, this is something she needs to do, not you. I can understand you worrying about her and her health, but constantly pushing it onto her will put her into a defense mode. If you re going to try to help her, sit her down and gently tell her that although you love her and accept her for who she is, you re very concerned about her weight, not for your wellbeing, but for hers. Tell her that you miss her going out for walks with you, and you want her to be there to play with her future grandkids, and to run around with them, and to go out with you and not have to stop every minute to take a breath. Explain to her that you re concerned about her, but that you ll accept whatever decision she makes, whether she decides to take control of her life or not. Really make sure the emphasize that you love her no matter what, and that you ll support her in any which way you can should she choose to lose the weight. Right now, she needs your support more than anything. Telling her that you love her and accept her for who she is will be the greatest thing you can tell her. We often seem to forget that our parents are humans too, and have thoughts and feelings. Please take that into consider when you sit her down and talk to her... Good luck.
I go to slimming world it is great, i have lot 13lbs so far, You can eat a lot of food as long as it is the right food, there are great recipes not boring stuff. Tell her to go on the the web site to get an idea of what it is about. I go once a week,get weighed and stay for image therapy in which we all talk about what works for us. nobody is made to feel a failure if sometimes they put on weight or don t loose. It is all about healthy eating but not boring food.
See if you can get someone else to help to let her know about the dangers. It would also help if you lead by example and got in shape. If you would like you can download a free ebook at http://www.makeoverfitness.comSometimes you have to tell people the truth to help them.
