It is a vicious circle. You feel bad about yourself, inadequate about your appeal with regards to your husband, so you eat to feel better. You feel bad about eating, look at the women on tv, wonder why you don t look like that, and eat some more. You then gain more weight, and it all begins again.Just for your information, the women on tv that you say are so sexy, they represent a very small portion of society as a whole. The average woman wears a size 14. These women on tv also deal with anorexia, bulimia, and drug abuse in some cases. I don t think you should worry too much about how you look, you are obviously the one he loves, or he wouldn t have married you in the first place. Just try and relax about it, don t obsess about it and try and eat a little more healthily. Do not diet, it will set you up for failure and make you feel worse about yourself.Be kind to yourself.....
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I used to feel the way you re feeling. I can t even begin to tell you how many times I attempted to lose weight and failed...over and over again. I finally did it though. I lost 105 lbs in just over four years. I deliberately lost only 1-2 lbs a week. And I haven t regained one pound in almost four years. The key though is I did it for myself. You said like you just want to look sexy for your husband. You ll never be successful if you approach your weight loss from that angle. If you do it solely for your husband, what if your marriage ends? There goes your motivation. Do it for YOU and you only. Sure, every woman wants to feel sexy to her husband, that s natural. But, in the core of YOU, not dependant on what your husband thinks, or what your whatever thinks, the core of you has to want to do this just for you. When you get that straight in your head, almost any (logical) weight loss plan will work because you will be ready for it to work. I used Weight Watchers, but there are alot of other great plans out there too. You know, I read a quote by Cindy Crawford in a magazine years ago that really opened my eyes to this whole beauty thing. She said, ...when I wake up in the morning, even I don t look like Cindy Crawford!! Think about that. You can do this. Believe me, if I could do this, Miss Weight Loss Failure Over and Over Again, ANYONE can! I really mean that. There are wonderful books on the market about the mental aspects of weight loss. Read some of them. Once you get your weight loss head on straight, there will be no stopping you. I wish you every success.
Many of us use food to hurt ouselves. It feeds our low self esteem. My advice is to throw out your scale, and just be good to your body. Your weight will find it s own balance and you ll feel better about yourself.
try to start to eat healthy, like cut down on the sweets and excersise. the endorphins will help u feel happyer and they will slim u down. if u r over obsesing talk to some1 u trust or see a therapist. get some1 close to u to give u a compliment everyday on how u look. think of the posotive things in life and how u look. wear cloths that make u feel better. every little bit helps. and next time ur reading those mags. and ur watchign shows on MTV and VH1 that have those skinny little rich girls, remember-thats not real. its better to have curves [there prettyer then bones...trust me]
becaue mayb ur husband enjoys ur curves taht not strange alot guys find havin curves alot sxyeir... curves is the true sxy as being stick thin or even quite thin isn t relli sxy as thats nor femine ahfl thouse ***/abbs could b guys.... and i doupt ur man is gay.. but all guys liek difrent things.... althou alot guys eshealiy younger 1s r brainwashed by the media in 2 havin a very small idea of what is sexy but this is not da case (and incase u wonderin im 16 :p)
I am with you, I obsess about my body, even though 70% of me is happy with it. My boyfriend is happy with it as well. I only want to be able to buy clothes at a normal store and not Lane Bryant for the rest of my life. I m in a size 18 now, and seriously wish I could find the answer. I have thought about the lap band surgery- would this be an option for you?
I go the the gym at least 3-4 times a week and loose about 1-4 pounds in about a 2-3 weeks. And not eat as much as i used to. If you don t have a gym pass you could just walk around the neighborhood for a while.
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