Hi sweetie, I think I know where you re coming from. I can understand what you re saying, there s love, there s history, and a lot of wonderful memories between you and it s worth salvaging. Remember though that if you re not married yet, it ll probably get way worse before it gets better. The important thing here is that you feel better about yourself, because you are worth it. If you want to feel better about yourself, I promise that you will get unbelievable results, and I mean unbelievable results if you go to a weight loss camp. We all know that the secret to losing weight is what...? Eating right and doing more exercise. The great thing about a weight loss camp is that it provides a forum for you to do this in a controlled environment, meaning that basically you have no choice but to eat what they give you and head their advice. This is a great chance to change your life, forever.I ve used all of the tools, all of the pills, every gadget, ab excersicer, bowflex, etc. My house is like a shrine to weight loss products and As seen on TV parafernalia. It s horrible. There s only one way that I ve ever lost weight. One way that I absolutely know from experience that works because you lose weight and because your habits are changed. Remember that when you were a child, your habits were formed, will power was tested or not, etc. The point being that you were conditioned into establishing your nutrition habits. This is very important to discover about one s self because out of conditioning you can HELP yourself get out of your weight problems. My solution? Go to a weightloss camp. YES I know, they ve been called fat farms and nasty things BUT THEY REALLY WORK. They re places that really help. there s a site that can help you out in finding one that suits you. Check out fitnesscamps.net and there might be something you like. I m pretty sure you can contact them via form/email or something like that. I like them because they don t charge anything and they really help you find a place that works for you, there site looks kinda crappy but see thru the book cover Their advice and more importantly, RESULTS you can get is pretty good. I hope this helps, if it does, I d appreiate the ten points, thanks!
Find a guy who makes you feel beautiful. Read The Rules. Sure, it s great to work out, but do it for yourself. Dump this guy, he sounds like a loser. You haven t said a single thing that s positive about him.Try www.weightwatchers.com to learn how to eat and exercise in a healthy way.
You have a relationship problem, not a weight problem. What I am getting at here is, you can lose the weight, but it will change nothing.One of the biggest problems in relationships is the leaking of sexual energy. A couple generations ago, this was taken SERIOUSLY....and for good reason. Although it doesn t matter much if you are just dating casually, it becomes almost impossible to build any long term relationship, let alone marriage, let alone raising a family together.You need to lay the smack down on your boyfriend. Make it clear in no uncertain terms that behavior is FORBIDDEN. And not just when you are around either. It s not allowed when he s out of your sight either. It is the one demand that a woman truly is allowed to make on a man (and vice versa). If he can t or won t do it...then get rid of him.You two have no future.
Whether or not gawking at other, skinnier girls is a normal behavior, it s certainly not a respectful one. Your boyfriend knows that it upsets you because he tries to hide it. And since he does try to hide it, he s being really dishonest with you. You need to sit him down for a serious talk, the sooner the better. Tell him how you feel about him looking at other girls, and trying to hide it from you. Tell him how he doesn t make you feel beautiful. Ask him why he does it, and don t believe any B.S. about how all guys do it. It s one thing to find other people attractive (guys aren t the only ones!). It s another to deliberately engage in behavior that your girlfriend doesn t like.The goal of your talk should be finding a solution to the problem. Even if your solution is for him to try not to look at other girls, and you poke him in the ribs when he does, whatever makes you feel better works. If he s unwilling to compromise, I suggest dumping him. Two years wasted is a lot better than 2+ years and your self confidence wasted.Still, whatever you do with the boyfriend, I can give you a few tips about eating habits and exercise. If he isn t going to make you feel good, make yourself feel good. There s the usual no fast food, junk food, or sodas. At least limit your intake if you can t cut it out completely. What I would suggest doing, though, is making two lists. One is a great big list of all the foods you like, from simple things like apples to barbecued Vietnamese eight-spiced Cornish hens. Then, organize the list into Healthy, Not-So-Healthy, and Unhealthy. Healthy means that you can eat it anytime, Not-So-Healthy means no more than once per week, and Unhealthy means once per month. Then, make another list, keeping track of everything you re eating. That way you can tell if you re eating Not-So-Healthy/Unhealthy items too often, and you ll have a list of Healthy things to substitute. It does require willpower, but I can t help you with that.As for exercise, it really depends on what fits into your life. Try to walk around the neighborhood for at least 20 minutes a day, every day. Jog if you can. Buy a set of weights to pump while you re at the computer. They re pretty cheap. I would start with 3lbs first, and only increase if you feel like it. When you get up in the morning, do a series of stretches. I m not going to recommend any in particular, but you should google stretches and make a routine that works for you.Good luck. :)
Number one and most important get read of the guy. If he doesn t want you for who you are now, most likely he never will. So end before things get worse, don t let him have time to break your heart. You want him to respect you...respect yourself first and demand respect. Second and not so important as the first if your body is perfect now leave.... (Third and not so important as the ones about but you asked) If you want to lose some weight at home get down and do crunches, leg throw downs, push ups, maybe go for a nice walk (maybe with your dog if you have one) just be active. Try to drink water only...try 8 cups a day(it might sound like a lot but if you drink 1 at each meal your already at 3....GO YOU!) I think that s all i have. V doses V
You don t need a guy to make you feel beautiful :) Actually, that s often the worst way to go about it. However, if you want to lose weight for YOU, then go for it.You mentioned your thighs as being your main concern I think, and that can be pretty easily fixed by running, lunges, floor exercises and even just walking. You can t really choose where you re going to lose pounds, but you can definitely choose where you want to tone. Also, try cutting out soft drinks and juices, because even just doing that can make a noticeable difference.Honestly, I think doing other things that make you happy can raise your self confidence, too. People usually date for one of two reasons; to find the person they want to be with for the rest of their life, or just to have fun. Do you really want to be with someone you can t trust who makes you feel fat for rest of your life? And it doesn t sound like you re having much fun. If you get yconfidenceance back, whether or not you lose weight, you can have your pick of guys that don t need to look else where and who certainly respect you :)
